Somehow, I am 39. I am 39, even though I still feel like I am maybe 17 and I still look around for thereal "grown-ups." As I stare down 40 and gear up for another phase of life, I find myself going back to the things that comforted me when I really was a teenager, and TV and movies were both very big parts of growing up for me in the '80s and early '90s. I cut my teeth on old school Sesame Street and The Electric Company, I grew up with the Cosby Show and Family Ties and later 90210, and the movies I watched over and over starred people like Molly Ringwald, Andrew McCarthy, Ethan Hawke and a whole lot of hairspray. Recently, I realized -- with some amusement -- that a few of the lessons I am trying to teach my kids didn't come from my parents or from school. Instead, they came from scenes in those movies that I can still recite in my mind:

不知不覺我已三十九歲了，我三十九了，盡管有時(shí)候我以為自己還是十七歲，甚至還把年長的人看做“大人”。我等待著四十歲的來臨，準(zhǔn)備好進(jìn)入人生另一個(gè)階段，這時(shí)我卻開始懷念起少年時(shí)的事物來了，它們?cè)o我以慰藉。上世紀(jì)八九十年代，我尚年幼，青春歲月都由電視和電影伴我渡過。孩提時(shí)期，我愛看《芝麻街》（Sesame Street）和《電力公司》（The Electric Company），然后是《考斯比一家》（Cosby Show），《家族的誕生》（Family Ties）以及后來的《比佛利山莊90210號(hào)》（90210），這三部電視劇則一路伴我成長。這些經(jīng)典的影片也捧紅了不少明星，例如莫利·林沃德（Molly Ringwald），安德魯·麥卡錫（Andrew McCarthy），伊桑·霍克（ Ethan Hawke ）等等。年歲漸長，我才驚奇地發(fā)現(xiàn)學(xué)校的老師和家長并沒有教會(huì)我多少經(jīng)驗(yàn)，反倒是那些從小看到大的影片使我受益匪淺，種種人生意義我都從中學(xué)得，至今仍沒有忘記，我甚至還想要告訴我的孩子。

1. Each of us is a brain, an athlete, a basket case, a princess and a criminal. (The Breakfast Club)

1.我們每個(gè)人都是書呆子、運(yùn)動(dòng)員、神經(jīng)病、公主和罪犯的集合體。電影：《早餐俱樂部（The Breakfast Club）

Even in sixth grade, my oldest is starting to classify himself and his friends. I did the same thing at his age; I know how it goes in middle and high school. But I try to remind him that everyone he meets has so much going on behind the fa?ade he sees in the hallways at school -- that everyone is fighting a hard battle of some sort, and that no person fits neatly inside a simple label. It's a lesson I learn over and over again, even as an adult. In the end, as Patrick Dempsey's "geek turned chic" says in another favorite, Can't Buy Me Love: "Nerds, jocks. My side, your side... It's hard enough just trying to be yourself."

我的大兒子在六年級(jí)的時(shí)候就開始給同學(xué)分類。當(dāng)年我也這么干過；中學(xué)時(shí)期，青少年總是渴望標(biāo)新立異，脫穎而出。但是我還是試圖告訴他，學(xué)校里的每個(gè)人都有不為人知的另一面——每個(gè)人都有難處，不能輕易為他人貼上標(biāo)簽。在今后的生活中，我反復(fù)印證了這一點(diǎn)。此外，在電影《愛情買賣》（Can't Buy Me Love）中 ，帕特里克·德姆西（Patrick Dempsey）扮演的角色經(jīng)歷種種，最后由“怪胎”變成了“帥哥”，坦言道“運(yùn)動(dòng)健將，蠢貨。你來我往……做自己太難了。”這部電影我也很喜歡。